Wise is the person who thinks before putting his/her thoughts in Action. The fool thinks after messing up everything. And the one who realizes that He/She has messed up and still doesn't apologize because of the ego/guilt is even worse than the foolish.
A Happy Family is not a Myth
“My thought of a perfect marriage was one of romance, great communication, having a great home and I was doing my best to be the perfect wife to him and be…actually I was being fake.”
Cheryl Scruggs was married with two kids when she started to feel numb. Numbness turned to anger. Anger lead to spending more time at work where she got a lot of attention from men. One man in particular.
As the affair developed she decided to divorce her husband. Jeff remembers being so angry he couldn’t even look at Cheryl. Several months after the divorce Cheryl heard the gospel, a day she describes as the second saddest day of her life.
“I looked back and I saw everything I had thrown away.”
Cheryl saw the mess she’d made of her life and wondered if it could ever be put back together. Maybe you can relate?
You’re probably very familiar with 2 Corinthians 5:17, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; behold, the new has come.”
It can be hard to own the truth of that verse when it feels like we’ve torn things apart with our own hands. But God promises us new beginnings, second chances, redemption. He doesn’t promise that life will be painless – lesssons are often hard won – but He promises not to leave us languishing in our messes. All we have to do is turn back to God and we’ll find that He’s right there, ready to work redemption in us and through us.
Some Important Points you must know:
1. Pursue Peace In Your Relationships
It may not be possible for your marriage to be restored but you can pursue peace in your relationships. Take a look at your relationships. If there is still pain, if there are things that have not been forgiven, ask God to work in your heart to help you to pursue peace. It may be helpful to pray through this with a spiritual mentor.
Remember that forgiveness does not necessarily wipe away the consequences. There may be someone who is not safe for you to be around. Pursuing forgiveness does not mean that you have to invite this person back into your life. Don't miss this article on forgiveness and consequences.
2. Practice Spiritual Breathing
Just as you need to constantly breathe physically, you need to breathe spiritually, too. You could try spiritual breathing to rely on the Holy Spirit by faith throughout your day. When you realize you’ve sinned, or when temptation, stress or doubt weighs on your mind, you can…
Exhale: Admit your sin to God—no excuses—take full responsibility for your mistake and resolve not to repeat it. Let go of worry, fear or self-reliance.
Inhale: Rely on God to fill you by His Spirit. Receive His hope, confidence, forgiveness and power to make better choices.
“Pray continually. Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” (1 Thessalonians 5:17-18, NIV).
“Since we are living by the Spirit, let us follow the Spirit’s leading in every part of our lives” (Galatians 5:25, NLT).
What's the next step you feel God is asking you to take?